Where does unworthiness really come from?

One of the most common feelings I see in clients is unworthiness.

Many people believe that feeling unworthy comes from a difficult relationship, a stressful job, or something happening in their life right now. While those situations can trigger the feeling, the root often goes much deeper.

In my experience, many feelings of unworthiness begin very early in life, often between the ages of three and five.

Before that age, children are deeply connected to their soul. They are naturally joyful, curious, and open. They do not question their worth. They do not worry about whether they are good enough. They simply exist as their authentic selves.

As children begin to grow, they start to become aware of the world around them. They begin school. They observe their parents and caregivers. They notice emotions, tension, stress, and conflict.

The challenge is that a young child does not have the understanding to interpret what is happening.

If a parent is stressed, angry, distracted, or emotionally unavailable, a child may create a story about what is happening.

They may think:

"I'm not loved."

"I don't matter."

"I'm not important."

"I did something wrong."

Over time, these thoughts can become beliefs.

Those beliefs can stay with us into adulthood and influence our relationships, careers, confidence, and the way we see ourselves.

The good news is that these beliefs are not who you are.

They are simply stories that were created when you were too young to understand what was really happening.

Healing begins when we become aware of these patterns and start questioning whether they are actually true.

You are worthy.

You are loved.

You matter.

And you always have.

If you are ready to understand where your feelings of unworthiness come from and begin releasing the beliefs that no longer serve you, I invite you to book an appointment.

With love,

Christine